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Who’s In Your “Sphere of Influence”?

30 Nov

When clients come to me in distress about their relationships (which is nearly universal, whether I’m doing individual or couples therapy), one of my first “go-to” conversations is about his/her “sphere of influence.”

How Much of Your Happiness Do You Control?

24 Nov

I’ve written a lot about happiness in the past – how to find it, how to keep it, and who has the most of it. But, I’ve rarely written about the happiness “breakdown.” Until now.

BEING GRATEFUL

20 Nov

BEING GRATEFUL Be thankful that you don’t already have everything you desire. If you did, what would there be to look forward to? Be thankful when you don’t know something, for it gives you the opportunity to learn. Be thankful for the difficult times. During those times you grow. Be thankful for your limitations, because […]

I Want You Close… So Watch Me Push You Away

10 Nov

If you took Psychology 101 in college, you likely heard about an experiment in which a researcher studied baby monkeys–would they choose to be with a wire “mother” who gave them food and water or a cloth “mother” who gave them comfort?

Are We Too Fragile for Conflict?

10 Nov

I have to laugh at some of the new proposed laws popping up around the country – in one state, lawmakers are trying to outlaw swings at playgrounds because they’re dangerous. In another, children were nearly banned without an adult because they could fall down stairs.  In yet another, a Mom was nearly arrested for letting […]

Why We Want What We SHOULDN’T Want In a Partner

26 Oct

I may not have a ton of single friends, but I DO have several single clients – and, most (if not all) are looking for love. Real love. Lasting love. Powerful love.

In the Wake of Las Vegas…

19 Oct

My husband, Rob, just happened to be in the hotel next to Mandalay Bay when the Las Vegas shooter killed 59 people Sunday night from a hotel room on the 32nd floor. So, suffice it to say, the tragedy hit a little close to home.

If I Were You, I Would…

5 Oct

How many times a day do you come across situations in which you might say to yourself (or out loud), “If I were you, I would…” or “She should…” or ” If he knew what was best for him, he would…”

Why Are We So Afraid of Struggle?

28 Sep

I don’t often get to see my clients during times of joy, peace, and tranquility – instead, I often interact with them during times of trauma, struggle, or pain.

Feel Free to Fantasize!

7 Sep

Perhaps you’ve heard about the value of imagining success – the idea that, if you “practice” something, then you’re more likely to be successful at it. For example, if you imagine yourself running that half marathon and finishing, then you’re more likely to actually DO it. And, do it successfully.