When Is Conflict Worth It?

25 May

Have you ever been around someone who creates conflict even over the smallest events or problems? It’s as if this person might be hunting for conflict or complaint and seizes on every opportunity to “have it out.”

Leaders: Would you rather be liked or respected?

22 May

Leadership is hard and lonely. Creating a vision and direction can impact many – like shaking up the status quo. So, as you forge a new leadership role or build on an existing one … would you feel better if you are liked or respected?

Does Long Distance = Less Conflict?

18 May

When it comes to long-distance relationships, the generally-accepted philosophy is that they’re not a good idea and often lead to conflict and break-ups. But, is that really the case?

Civil Conversations

15 May

A colleague recently told me about relationships he had that were being strained by the negative public discourse in our country. People that he had been friendly with were talking about politics and communication was breaking down. Sides were being taken and the value of the relationships they had previously enjoyed were questioned and sometimes […]

Had a Chaotic Childhood? Why You May Have an Advantage

11 May

For so many years, we mental health professionals have empathized with clients who came from emotionally chaotic childhoods and homes. After all, it’s been shown that coming from a chaotic home can set you up for all sorts of problems later on (a pursuit of immediate gratification, etc.).

Hitting P A U S E

8 May

You’ve just been hit with a fistful of words and your immediate reaction is to hit back with a barrage of your own.

“Even If… That Doesn’t Mean…

4 May

Inner conflict is one of the toughest battles to fight – after all, when we have an inner conflict, we can’t blame someone else or schedule a fist fight in the parking lot. Instead, it’s up to us and us alone to figure things out. And, that can be a tall order.

Tempted to Give Advice? Think Again.

1 May

It’s bound to happen. Someone with a marital or relationship problem is going to come to you and ask for advice. How do you best support that person now that you have been put into this “first responder” role?

Are You Having A.R.E. Discussions? Why You Should

27 Apr

Have you ever tried to have a conversation with someone – only to discover a)he/she isn’t listening at all 2) he/she is distracted by technology or c) he/she is already getting defensive even before you start to speak?

When is Feeling Bad Good?

24 Apr

We’ve all heard of the “power of positive thinking.” But sometimes it’s just hard to turn that frown upside down. So what then?