Conflict and Culture–Why Geography Matters

7 May

So, as many of you know by now, I’ve recently moved back to Hawaii with my family after spending seven years on the mainland.

And, frankly, we couldn’t be happier with our decision. But, just 13 days in, I’m experiencing the culture shock I remember having when I first moved to Hawaii at 23 years old.images (4)

In short, people here aren’t really into conflict.

By that, I mean–airing out differences, confronting problems, and letting others know where you stand isn’t exactly as acceptable here as on the mainland. I could never pin down why this is, exactly, but I theorize that it may have to do with the fact that most of the state’s population is of Asian descent. And (my Asian friends tell me) the Asian culture believes in keeping conflict to a minimum.

So, here I am trying to fit it (again) and that means re-training myself to be more conscious of how I approach conflict. For example, my instinct to honk my horn at evil-doers on the road is an absolute no-no. It’s a bummer, really, because I like to honk (a lot).

Alas, I think I have some growing pains ahead of me when it comes to setting up a business which focuses on conflict resolution. But, I believe many here may find it a relief to have a forum in which to resolve conflict.

So, stay tuned. And, wish me luck!




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