Feeling Appreciated

9 Dec

I can’t tell you how many times I have heard someone say “I don’t mind doing it … but I don’t feel appreciated.”

It comes up in mediation quite often and I have heard it from friends and colleagues too. Then, I recently said it to Bill about some work I was doing as a volunteer and I thought … maybe this would be a good topic for a post.

So, I did a little research.

  • Turns out that nearly 40% of the US work force is feeling less satisfied in their current job and feel less unappreciated for the job they do (2011 Workforce Mood Tracker).
  • Over 61% of men who were no longer in relationships said they had feelings of being unappreciated (2103 Stepdad Poll).
  • There is a Volunteer Bill of Rights that states it’s OK to leave a volunteer position if you feel unappreciated.
  • The ALS Association lists being unappreciated as a factor in Caregiver Burnout.

Feeling unappreciated makes someone feel unnoticed, unrecognized, taken for granted and disconnected. It get’s to you.  It can result in discontent, frustration, resentment and conflict. And perhaps the need for change.index

So, what can we do?

Donald Peterson, the former chairman of the Ford Motor Company, said that the most important 10 minutes of his day were spent boosting people around him.

We all love being valued and recognized.

Here are some simple ideas:

  • Say THANK-YOU. It doesn’t take much time.
  • Give a COMPLIMENT … out loud!
  • HIGHLIGHT someone’s efforts to others.
  • SHARE the spotlight.
  • CHECK IN to see whether there’s a change.
  • REPEAT what works – remember everyone is different.

So, my takeaway from today’s post is … when life gets busy and we are running 100 mph, don’t forget the simple ways to make someone feel appreciated. It can help to reduce conflict later.




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